Dagara Grief Technique
Sobonfu Some teaches the importance of tears and the importance of someone bearing witness to those tears. In the western world our instincts are to offer kind soothing touch to ease away or shut off the tears. The Dagara way is to allow the grieving person an opportunity to cry without physical interference. Touch can shut down the tears that are ready to flow or flowing. During her Dagara grief rituals, Sobonfu demonstrates different grieving body language that would require the support person to intervene with touch. The touch is specific to the ritual. Done correctly, it will not shut down the emotional release. Sobonfu's calendar for grief ritual in the United States is listed on her website.